It has been my experience in life that sooner or later, for better or worse, people always show us who they are. Our job is to pay attention… to believe them. Our job is to tell ourselves the truth and to take care of ourselves in the process.
I've also learned that those who judge and criticize me and others harshly, typically live with a relentless critic within themselves… mercilessly judging, criticizing and straight-up abusing themselves daily for falling short of some illusion/delusion of perfection. I've come to understand that these people need compassion more than anything… even if from a distance… because quite frankly, what a horrible way to go through life!!
Here's what I know for sure…
The more I learn to love and accept myself with all of my flaws, shortcomings, and lack of perfection… the more I learn to have compassion, understanding, and patience for myself… the more I am able to extend that same grace and tolerance to others. Alternately, the more I judge me, the more I judge you.
I personally kicked off 2018 with a commitment to judge less and love more… and guess what? I fall short every day! However, I am increasingly conscious and aware of where my ego is getting in my way, holding me back and separating me from love, from joy, and from peace. It's a matter of moment by moment choice, and when I slip I can choose again, without judging myself in the process.
Now let me be clear! This does NOT mean we stop discerning. It is critical that we are able to discern when an individual's attitude and/or behavior is healthy for us to have in our lives… or not. The major difference is whether or not we are condemning what we see when discerning that a thing is a thing.
We can see (or feel) that a person's attitude towards us is less than kind, loving or friendly… no matter how they try to pretend otherwise… we know. We can pay attention and tell ourselves the truth, without condemnation.
That's the KEY! Discern and accept… without condemnation. It takes some practice for sure!!
When we hold a person, friendship, relationship or situation up to the light of day, see it for what it is, tell ourselves the truth and where appropriate choose otherwise for ourselves… we can do so without all the criticism and drama. See it. Accept it. Bless it. Silently say no thank you and walk away with a peaceful and loving heart. It's a matter of choice.
Here's the truth…
We cannot become master manifesters and create the lives that we'd rather be living if our knee-jerk reaction is to judge, criticize and diminish others at every opportunity. Our outside is ALWAYS reflecting back to us what we carry… our inside. If we carry the energy of criticism, we'll perpetually find things to criticize, in ourselves and in those around us. Our wish is the Universe's command… and the sad fact is… that energy is blocking our manifesting power. For real!
Throughout my life, I have often extended the gift of my friendship to people whose perceptions and attitude turned out to be anything but friendly. I have cultivated the habit of looking for the lesson and the gold, and I always find it. I simply ask myself, “What is it in me? What am I carrying that I have attracted you?”
Because I ask these questions, I always learn, and I always grow. As such, there is nothing to say but Thank You! I send you Love!!
With a heart full of massive Love my Friends… judge less and love more… starting with you!!
#knowyourvalue #unlockyourfreedom
